Give Me a Break

I was just over reading EmmaSometimes' blog and she reminded me that I need to do my laundry. I better get up there and do it soon. Gee whiz.

I slept terribly last night. Maybe it is because my neighbor is causing me some problems. I don't know. Apparently when Dear Sir and I were taking a nap and the kids were watching a movie yesterday, the neighbor girl came over to play and the Oldest told her that we were taking a nap and she needed to go home for now. The girl apparently did not like the idea so she ran home and cried to her mother. I woke up from my nap with a message on my phone from my neighbor (and I actually checked it two hours or so from waking) saying that her daughter was "devastated" by something and she knows that they are "different" people, but they don't need to be treated this way, etc. She even went so far as to say that she knows that we have new friends, and family visiting, like we dumped them to the side of the road. It was extremely condescending and dare I say, jealous. It was really bizarre. I admit, I flared with sudden anger. I am not an angry person, but I have no idea why someone would think that they could talk to me like that on my machine. Or even on the phone or in person.

I called her right back. She was not home, apparently, but I said that I would like to speak to her in person about this matter, and I have no idea what she is talking about as far as her daughter being devastated (I had no idea what happened when I got the message, I had just seen it at that time on the phone). I told her as well that she had no right to speak to me that way, she was very condescending, and completely out of line.

The funny thing is, her girl came over almost directly after she left that ridiculous message and played for a few hours with my girl. I did not even know about this vile message until her daughter later went home, after my treating her to an ice cream from the ice cream man.

At least I am calm enough now to know what to say to her. It was complete manipulation. Why do people think that they can manipulate me? There have been a great number of people in my life that have taken advantage of me over and over and have gotten nasty with me with all sorts of weird jealousies. I don't even know what kind of jealousies, to be honest. It is the whole tone of the instances.

She is not a Christian, and I can't expect her by any means, to act like one, so that is fine. I do, however, expect her to act like a human being and then in turn treat me like one. All I can do is tell her my standards basically and let her know that I owe her nothing, she owes me nothing, and we are just neighbors. That is IT. Get off my back.


KingJaymz said...

My default answer for everything in life is "Punch them in the genitals." That doesn't tend to work out so well in court, sometimes.

If you allow yourself to be manipulated on a few occasions, people will always assume that they can manipulate you. You have to be firm and consistent in standing up to their bs. My wife has this same trouble with a few people. However, they may just perceive that they've manipulated you a few times when they really didn't and are running with that assumption.

I love Bender on Futurama. His tag-line is "Bite my shiny, metal a**." Not only does it sound cool, but I can't even begin to tell you how many times I've been tempted to whip it out.

KingJaymz said...

Woohoo! First! {and second}

Shealyisnottheantichrist said...

Third. Nah, nah, nah.

I am sorry that your neighbor treated you this way. You totally did not deserve it. Manipulative people drain your resources and then leave you feeling guilty for having had any resources in the first place.

~Jennifer said...

I'm sorry. Your neighbor sounds more than a little neurotic. It's unfortunate that you have to make nice with her just to preserve peace. I guess that's one of the burdens of trying to be a good Christian. However, being manipulated is not, so good for you on dealing with the situation like a mature adult. I can't wait to hear how your talk went.

R said...

Jared--Spoken like a true brother! You are right, if I look as if I can be manipulated or have fallen into the trap, it is easy for the manipulator to think he or she can do it again. Congrats on being first! That is indeed the first time perhaps that anyone has rejoiced about that on MY blog.

Shealy--Thank you. Your last sentence is so full of wisdom I am blown away. It is so stinking true!!!!

Jennifer---You are right, there are some issues there. She is also a very hurt woman who is insecure and depressed, so hence some of the feelings she has and the assumptive behavior. I understand why she is that way, but I don't understand why ME. Why ME? Everything is about ol' number one, you know? He he.

I haven't talked to her yet; she works like a crazy person, but I will next chance I get and give a report.

Thank you for all your support! I feel so loved!

Ba Doozie said...

I guess the key is they "think" they can manipulate you but they don't actually get away with it, or at least you don't sound like you let them, so that is good!

Dapoppins said...


That is so cool that you confronted her. My heart would have been in my mouth and I would have asked my husband to do it. Maybe.

The Woman said...

But piggy back rides are so much fun!

Emma Sometimes said...

WOOHOO! Ninth!

You and I were reading each others blogs at the same time..hehe. THAT is funny.

and hey, you can't have other friends! ITS ALL ABOUT ME!!!!!!!!!!

Okay, that's my lame attempt at humor.

You sound like you are standing up for yourself. Good for you. And your neighbor is weird. Just so you know...hehe.

R said...


Dapoppins---I wish I could wimp out and let Dear Sir do it, but he wouldn't do it. He hates confronting people.


Emma--True, I think we were! That IS funny.

"and hey, you can't have other friends! IT'S ALL ABOUT ME!!!!!!!!" is so true a statement and rather frightening other humans understand in such a keen way. You have such perception, my dear!

Thanks for the heads up!